Appreciate the quick responses Valeska and Jon! Y'all have been very helpful in my situation.
Well, as if thing weren't complicated enough, here an update...
UPDATE 7:23pm When she came to pick our son up, my wife confronts me about the letter she sent. (Rats, I was hoping to send her THE response tonight.) She asked if I was moving or not. I said I haven't found a lot related to my field/career there, so the move will depend on what I find. She gets pissed off that I had since February to look, and she thinks that I'm making excuses just like I always have...e.g. back in Texas or when we first moved here to California.
I told her that I will respond to her letter tonight. Then she says:
W: Well, why don't we talk about it now? You better not try anything funny. I'm leaving soon... M: When ARE you leaving? W: June 10th...actually I have to be THERE by June 10th. So if you do something to hold up my residency, I will be a stay-at-home mom and you can support us for a whole year. (She smirks) W: I'll never do that to him (points to our son).
So can anybody tell me what is going through her mind? Because I can't.
I didn't not mention the court date or anything more because I felt that she was talking too much about this in front of our son. I said:
M: Let's talk about this another time. Not here.
My wife then goes on to talk about why I'm making excuses of moving there or finding a job.
W: You work in HR, ha-ha...How hard is it to find something like that there? Yadda yadda yadda.
All she kept bringing up was the past and my past. I just kissed and said bye to our son.
Then she said, "So much for me trying to talk nicely to you."
M: Thanks for speaking nicely. W: Right. M: No, thanks again for speaking nicely. It's been awhile since you've done that.
And I closed the door.
What really bothers me is what she said about staying at home and skipping this year. I don't mind supporting her and ll that if she did, but I can expect a lot of hatin' from her, at least initially.
