I guess we have "Irreconcilable Differences"

[NYCPeter]

I have developed a weekly habit of checking the local court records online to see if my W's L has filed for divorce. Today I saw that she had.

She said she would so it shouldn't be a surprise, it would have been nice if we could have settled everything beforehand but we're so far apart on alimony (I offered an amount for 4 years, she wants double the amount for 6 years). My L said she could get what she's asking for it all depends on the judge.

Not sure whether I should appeal to her sense of fairness (she has pre-marital assets, parents with money and local family to help). My family has no money, any assets I had are pretty much co-mingled and no local family to assist with the girls.

Not even sure I should mention it until I receive the summons - I do hope she has the decency not to have me served at work, I mean there are nicer ways of handling this.

I know her L is looking out for her best interests, but it's disappointing that it likely will impact our future relationship if this gets into a battle over alimony.

I'm down - but I'll recover.....

Peace everyone....