I am very interested in this topic too. I had the rose colored glasses on when I thought that if he came back, I could be sweet and nice and sexy, and everything else I thought he would want for infinity. I didnt think about the issues that would come up that would confuse me. Last night after I asked him about a matchmaking website on the history of the computer, (probably a pop up I know), he said something to me in such a way that I found myself 'almost' reverting to the previous way of dealing with him. Anger, bitterness, etc. But, I didnt say anything, he continued to comfort and support me and it turned out okay.
Right now he is doing great with my fears and hurts, (which I thought I'd be keeping hidden, while having a PMA 24/7), but he'll get tired of having to reassure me. I have got to get back to loving detachment and PMA. I need the peace back to deal with everyone. I am feeling overwhelmed at work and that just spills over into home.
and it has been suggested that he came back too fast... after leaving abruptly and that is a red flag. Sigh.
I don't know. I always trust what he says, but then I ck up on him in these little ways and have nagging doubts. So I guess the trust isn't there right now, and shouldnt be. It takes time and earning the trust.
Good news- we went to church together sunday, he was welcomed back with lots of hugs and praise to God. I know that returning to church he had left would be stressful, some men wouldnt do it at all.
That's all for now.
"Being at peace with yourself is a direct result of finding peace with God."
And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Phillipians 4:7
