It's scary, and thrilling and can be as much of a roller coaster as any other part of the relationship...it's really the part where the true work begins....putting into action what you've learned....starting to blossom and open up abpout yourself to another the person....the person you love and fear the most.
Amen to that!!
The tough part to really keep in mind is that reconciliation, and "piecing", is really more of a "process" than it is an "event". I've got a little over 3 years behind my belt to testify to that!
Quote: putting into action what you've learned
Also another important point to keep in mind. The "newcomer" stage seems, at times, to be "practice" for the lifetime of work that lays ahead of you. This is not meant to be taken in a bad light, either.
Change is constant. Or, at least, it should be, otherwise things in the relationship get pretty stagnant. Takes us back to a place that's similar to where things may have went bad in the first place. I think that it's key that we, as the "solution-oriented" one's in the relationship, take the lead in what direction these changes occur.
Gotta run, more later!
JJ
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