Hoping my marriage can be saved :(

[Maggie3]

H emailed me today that he is coming to do work at our house on Sunday. Was kind of a weird email- I won't be home but don't remember telling him that so I'm not sure whether to find his email telling me he is coming to be rude or not. Basically it said he was coming and to leave a note with anything I need done (other than what he listed)- which shows he expected me not to be there. Over the past month he has always emailed asking if he can come on certain days so I'm thinking he knows I won't be home. I'm wondering if I should leave him a list (plenty needs to be done) or not? I keep reading how men need to feel "needed" by a woman but our main issues were around fighting over household chores.

I have not sent him the email about May 1 yet. One thing I feel anxious about is making a decision whether to try MC again. This was something we said we would decide after our month of not speaking. We went to only one session during which the c said she thought he needed to go to IC before MC would help us. He went for a short time and said it wasn't helping. He said he would go to MC to help me find closure. I don't want to go if that's the reason. I don't feel ready to bring up all the same hurt I've tried to move past during the last month, especially if it's for nothing.