Do I just give in?

[Hurt84]

Not sure if there's an answer to this question but I'm going to ask it anyway to see if anyone has any insight.

Could approaching our separation the way I am at this point - not pursuing, having stopped snooping, not fighting her with her getting the apartment, etc - basically be giving into what she wants?

I know right now I should start focusing on what I need and figuring out what I really want but as it currently stands, I want her and I'm basically letting her walk away. The reason I'm asking this is because if she's still seeing OM (which I don't have any reason to believe it's stopped, she may have even gone there last night on the way home) I'm doing nothing about it but enabling her to pursue that relationship and throw ours away.

What's funny is that since I've started applying the friendly co-worker approach, we've been getting along pretty well in the 15-20 minutes a day we do talk. She's also started calling me during the day again about random stuff - her leaving work, chores, etc. I get the impression she's acting pleasant towards me because I've changed how I'm approaching things.

As far as I know her mind hasn't changed about moving out but she still insists on grocery shopping and planning out meals, etc. I guess what's leading me to question my approach is the mixed signals I'm getting. I'm sure in situations that the WAS is conflicted these types of signals are common. I guess dealing with them and staying on course is my struggle.