Detached, but not Broken-a diary of a LRT

[Broken74]

So it would appear that my W is trying to push my buttons remotely... I had asked that she remit her car payments by the 20th, they are due on the 26th. I've already paid the car and insurance payment for the month, in addition to funding $400 into my oldest SS 529account I set up this month. I've received nothing from her thusfar to date as far as a car/insurance payment. I am 100% liable for this vehicle in every respect aside from her driving it (because her credit's wrecked I nice guyed up to try and make her Christmas)

She received the account notification for the 529k and sent it to me Monday with an email asking is that something I set up, I said yes and noted she is the admin on the account, and that I am doing that for them (stepchildren) not that I expect it to change anything between us. We haven't spoke or communicated beyond that since the 18th I think.

So, I'd be lying if I said I'm not start getting a little ticked. I had no expectations with the 529k contribution, and no surprise I didn't get so much as a thank you in that regard. Her not remitting the car payment in a timely manner however is really chapping my hide. So I'm thinking (not mindreading) the possibilities are:

1) She forgot it which is quite possible because she is just like that, that's why I used to handle all the bills.
2) She doesn't care and/or is trying to elicit a negative reaction from me.
3) She doesn't care and is going to milk me for what she can until she files (don't know if or when that will happen although is a legal possibility on 8/27).
4) She has hit her first significant financial stumbling block, and can't pay it, and is embarrassed to relay that fact to me.

I'm thinking the check will probably show up this weekend, but I won't know that because I'll be on a GAL trip in Virginia :-)

So my 180 for this episode is going to be ignore this for now and DO NOTHING. That's right folks, I'm not going to call, email, text or otherwise, because although it irks me given her behavior over the past 8 months it's no surprise. But the best thing is, I have better things to do with my time than to worry about her BS behavior at this point! And really in the grand scheme of things what's $400 when she's already %*#&ed me out of 30k. lol

And it only took me 8 months to get here!!! lol

For any newbies, please heed the advice of the vets here and don't go rogue like I did! I wish I would have found this site in August/Sept instead of January because I think I could have avoided a lot of nonsense if that would have happened. Only time will tell if it was too late when I found this valuable place and you kind people that make it as such.

It is nice to be enjoying life again, although I am not going too crazy. I will say the ladies most definitely appreciate the new threads my W suggested I pick up when we last hung out. The words that come to mind for me a lot frequently are "her loss".

Hope everyone has a spectacular weekend as I know I will. Good luck to all of you in your respective sitch's!