DBing while settling finances

[needgrace]

Thank you, Val.

As always, you give me a lot to think about. We are legally married, which is sad, because if we D and things change later, we can not currently get married again in California. (although, to be honest, this brutal D and settlement process has made me wonder about marrying ever again.. )

From the questions W asked, I think she is trying to file in the state she is in now, which has a 6 months residency requirement to file (she has only lived there 2 weeks!) and at present, I don't think it allows gay and lesbian couples married in other states to D. I'm assuming that I let her figure that out on her own?

Any advice on how I tell her that I am not helping?