Originally Posted By: needgrace
Your thoughts? I guess I am confused Cadet as to what I would be accomplishing by not being cooperative.


There is a difference between being cooperative and doing HER work.

Forgive me NG, but I can't remember if you are legally married.

IF SO, then SHE can get all the answers to anything she needs.

Maybe she should have thought about getting her ducks a little more in a row BEFORE SHE LEFT.

I know it seems cold, but Cadet is right... she needs to grow up on her own. She needs to do this alone.

She wants you to help her as her spouse....

.... but she chose to leave.

I don't think there has been a single case of a WAS NOT cake-eating slightly.


You need to stop that.

... And as hard as it may feel... allowing her to feel what it is to TRULY be on her own (both good and bad) is the loving thing to do..

..for both of you.

((( )))

M(f): 40
D'ed: 8/12

Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.

Love at all costs because you are loved well.