P.S. As far as the divorce goes - the WAS usually wants it to be like the zipless f**k .....seamless and requiring no effort on their part.
It [censored], but if you want to strike while he's offering a good deal, you'll need to do it now before he starts changing his mind.
Remember though that divorce doesn't have to be the end unless you want it to be. You could just look at this as protecting half his assets from crazy OW. If he's CAPABLE of the kind of remorse and growth that would be required for you to want to take him back - he'll get there AFTER he hits bottom with the whack job. If he's NOT capable - then you getting into a R talk with him right now is rather pointless, since you wouldn't want him back unless he was capable of that change anyway, right?