Heart-You are early in the rollercoaster ride and your emotions sure still strong, I know I was the same way and still working on my triggers.
Being compassionate and not a doormat is a fine line. Don't put up with the stuff that is going on like Mr. Bond has pointed out.
All you can control is you. GAL and focus on your kids. Listen to the veterans around here they will steer you straight if you listen and decide what best for you.
Hang in there and you are not alone. We are all in this together.
Me:29 W:28 S:2 M: 5 years Bomb: 7-26-11 Separated: 8-20-11 EA w/ multiple OMs W filed 1/2012