Brooklyn Babe

[BklynMom]

Crazy night last. Okay not crazy in the way a night could be when I was in my early 20s living in NY but crazy for a late thirty something LBS.

I am on my way to yoga (like a good DBer) and call the girls to say good night. While on the phone H asks if we can talk later. I say I will be home after 10p. I get to yoga and am terrified, what does he want to talk to me about. Does he want to tell me again that its over!! I really thought I was not going to be able to stay in the yoga class I was preoccupied. I forced myself to stay and ended up having a mindfully relaxing class and an awesome workout. Hooray for GALing.

So H calls me later that evening and says he doesnt know if he should come over tomorrow for D1 birthday. I had invited him last week, to a private party with just me and the girls for her 2nd birthday. I really had no alt. motives just to celebrate our little one's big day. H says he doesnt know if he should come cause it might give the girls the wrong idea.

I validate and say "thats a good point". I listen more. Then say "D3 does have the wrong idea. She knows that you have another apartment but she considers us a family" H says what should I do about that. I say I dont know.

We end up speaking for a half hour. I did a lot of listening and validating. There were long periods of silence and I let him talk. He didnt say anything that would led me to believe he was coming home but I felt good about the conversation.

At one point I asked if I should be meeting him and the girls in the morning to walk with them to school (something we had already agreed to do) if that would give them the wrong idea. He said "No I dont think that will give them the wrong idea"

He asked if I would get the wrong idea if he came to the party, I said no he has made his position very clear we are getting a divorce.

He asked if my father would be mad if he came over (strange question). I said no he wants what is best for the girls.

Ultimately he decided to come to the party. Hooray. I am so excited and going to make lasagna and chocolate chocolate cup cakes tomorrow. The girls will be so happy. All the girls;)