your sitch is alot like mine. W has alot of the same behaviors as yours too. kinda scary. i also act alot like you. doin stuff right only to backslide the next day. it is so hard. i feel your pain. my wife is moving out in 2 weeks. she comes home when she feels like it, doesnt sleep here regularily anymore. be careful. if you concern yourself to much with her it will baackfire. i did that. i am listening to the wisdom i'm finding here and doing my best to apply it.