I sent an email to W in regards to our taxes 10 days ago. She finally replied now.
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I spoke with an accountant today and he said that it's best to be able to sit down in a room together with all our stuff and an accountant to work out the Community Property stuff. Honestly, I do not want to spent hundreds of dollars to do with but I don't think there is any way of getting around it. We do not know what we are doing and we need help. This is the last time we will have to worry about doing this together, so I would rather us do it right and not screw ourselves.
This accountant seems great but he said it would probably be around $1000 which I have no desire to pay but he is familiar with working with taxes for divorced couples and definitely was really easy and comfortable to talk to. I'm open to someone else but would like to get the ball rolling on this.
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Do I care that she took so long to reply.. no. Whether she was super busy, or procrastinating didn't matter to me...
... I knew that she would on her own time.
But it DOES upset me the constant reminder of money. It DOES upset me that I now feel pressured to "get the ball rolling" because she's NOW ready.
After a year, I still feel that everything has to be on HER time..
After a year... it still feels all about her.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
