1) thought stopping - my tendency to obsess now over the future (the horrible what ifs.......) and also what she is doing now (especially with OW in the picture now and her desire to move forward w/ D papers. I had been doing pretty well at giving her time/space before then.) I am having trouble with this one. My thoughts turn to her almost without a pre-thought. I am having some success at turning my mind to other things, but I need to GAL more so I have more to occupy my mindspace.
2) meditation and reading Buddhist philosophy to help me with my anxiety and w/ letting go.
3) i need to stop talking about her so much. at this point i think it just prolongs the obsession and pain.
4) i need to GAL more.... beyond my comfort zone and meet new people. i have a core group of friends but i have not gone beyond them much. Last night, I did, I went out with someone I know a little through work and her friend.
5) i am off of fb which is good for not trying to know what she is doing. but i also need to stop checking my email as much.
6) i have looked in the mirror but i realized after reading your note, TG, that i have not done much about the things i want to change. the top of the list is to be more confident socially and meet more people. i am putting that here so i feel more accountable, to make it harder to put off and off and off
7) i started a vision board of who i want to be and what i want in my life. i need to continue to add to it.
she sent me an email with some questions she needed answered for the D papers...questions about our property, etc. i assume that i answer them? i know. cadet, that you suggested that i don't help her with the D, but i am not sure what you meant by that. won't she just get angry if i don't provide what she needs?
thanks also for the stages information, i feel as if i bounce around between anger, denial and depression.... i know that i need to learn how to detach more to get to acceptance.
i imagine myself with 25mlc's confidence, saying that my W is a fool to leave me and to think that someone else can match up to me.. and even if she never realizes it, i know it.
Me(f): 51 W: 41 DP:8 M:3 T:10 "W not happy" 7/11 D final: 8/13
