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[zig]

oh nlw - sorry to hear you had such a rough day yesterday - my first thought when i read your post was - i have to remind nlw to take care of herself - unless you're in another country - you were up at 4.30 writing which means you weren't taking good care of yourself.

when i have a really rough day i get all worked up and then stay up really late too, and i'm trying to stop that too - i take my meditation cd to bed and meditate and fall asleep.

if you can look at it this way - at least d16 is letting it out and not holding it all in. i also thought - a dn this maybe way off what you need to hear - she's not mad at you, she's mad at h. could you consider asking her to express her feelings about the sitch to her dad.

i hope that you are feeling calmer now - it sounded like even though the whole thing left you raw, you handled it very well. it's okay to be really frustrated and p$ssed -

a couple of times when h was 'misbehaving" over at our house, instead of getting upset i just walked upto him calmly and said that he needed to leave . it shocked him, but i made it clear calmly that if he was going to come over, then he needed to treat s and me right.

it worked and he's much more respectful since then and more cognizant of how he is treating s.

if you do decide to do that, should probably tell you that after i said that there was about 15 mins of rage and accusations, during which i didn't say much and then he calmed down, and asked what i meant and then landed up feeling really regretful. both times, we were calm and happy s and i, when he came in and within mins s was struggling and so was i

so i hope you have a calmer day today - you may find that d16, after letting some of her own crazy feelings about all this out will be more loving and closer to you. i read somewhere that be grateful when some one is angry at you - because instead of them turning to despair, you can help them release some of the anger and frustration and hurt they are holding inside.

((((( ))))))

zig