(1) Change your signature. Your H seeing his L was about him needing to create space to lessen his own pain. It was *not about you,* it was *not about your birthday*. Don't make everything all about you. It makes you not hear or see him. It eliminates the space for genuine intimacy. Try instead: "4/2/12 Out of deep pain, sadness, and hopelessness, H consults a lawyer to empower himself to find a path to a happier life for himself. I'm glad to see H take ownership of his life to move it in a more positive direction. I want him to have the time and space he needs to figure out what that will be. I hope it includes a restored healthy M, only time will tell."
(2) What do you resent? More precisely, what is it that you feel entitled to that you aren't getting? We aren't entitled to anyone's love. There is no love that is not freely given. There is no love that is owed to another.
