Navy My anniversary was this last Saturday, so here is some perspective.
I'll start off with a tangent:
Ashleymadison the website for affairs reported that their highest number of registrations from women happen the day after valentines day, and the day after mothers day. The theory is that these women are reminded on those days how unhappy they are, and any attempts by their spouses to make those things special look like too little too late.
I think anniversaries fall under the same category, it's just a little harder for a website that caters to infidelity to catch that trend since everyone has different days. Nonetheless the notion that days meant to "celebrate love" only make things worse is clear.
So me and W have come to the agreement that it's not something we are going to do. There's huge pressure to make the day memorable, which means a bigger chance for disappointment. Let's face it whatever you did your W would just spin negatively either way so she's doing you a favor.
Anniversaries and valentines day to a WAW are just ugly reminders of how bad things are, when they "should" be right.
Don't get me wrong you W is still wrong for trying to pretend its not there, but what you did was only counterproductive IMHO.
I think it would have sent a stronger message had you ignored it.
Next time you find yourself debating whether you should celebrate one of these events ask yourself: does she deserve it?
Does she deserve to be celebrated for being your partner? Has she been a partner worthy of jewelry a nice card and a fancy dinner?
I believe you're supposed to be showing her that she's about to lose a good thing. Booking a trip just showed her that her reward for treating you like crap for 3 years is a vacation.
