Well when she says "be there for me" what does that mean? I would ask "what does it look like when I'm there for you? What am I doing and /or not doing?"

It is assuming that we know what these vague statements mean that often gets us into trouble.

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015