Man, this sounds exactly like my sitch with H. Exactly. He's so hurt from all of my actions over the years to the point that I don't know if things are reparable. Sigh. The list seems like a good thing, at least you have something concrete to move forward with. In MC I think I have been validating him, but I'm not sure it's making any difference, scared it's too late. So confused and it's so hard to not listen to what they say. Still working on GAL and doing okay with that I think.
I think our list is almost the same --- what are you doing to address the list? Maybe we can get some ideas from each other. The criticism part I'm really struggling with because he's so sensitive now that I've found that unless I agree with him on everything he gets very hurt. Even introducing another idea is interpreted as criticism of what he has chosen to do.
