Saving my marriage even she file for a divorce

[MrBond]

1) I really hope I can do it to give her space. I am forcing myself to do it.

Good.

2) I have always being good to GR, but she can't see it because I am always with GR alone. U may said I am using this as a strategy again. Maybe of the hope I am hoping for I still think of it as strategy but my love to my boy is real. How can she feel or see it if she wasn't around?

This is where you are getting mixed up. SHE DOESN'T HAVE TO SEE YOU BE A GOOD FATHER. JUST BE A GOOD FATHER. The love for your boy is real. That's good. You do this for yourself, she doesn't need to see it.

3) Arrange time with him is always what I want but my wife is always saying our boy is too young and I can't handle it. If I were to argue further, this make it worst. His dad can still tell me story of how his colleague son die because the father did not know how to take care of him. He always giving negative input to my spouse. Do you understand my difficulties?

Honestly I'm getting a little tired telling you this. Don't argue. Find out what your rights are and arrange the time to see your son. It doesn't matter what your father in law says. That's YOUR son NOT HIS!

My W took my kids when the youngest was barely one year old. I fought for them and now I'm the best dad around. Fight for your son. Don't do it to try and get your W back.

4) When you don't pay attention to someone, they start paying attention to you.
It this really true?

Your W isn't paying attention to you and now you're suddenly paying her alot of attention. You ignored her before and she tried to get your attention. You tell me if it's true. Seems like it is.

Listen, I will say this one more time. YOU HAVE TO CHANGE.

1) You have to change the behaviors that your W didn't like.

2) You have to stop being scared. It shows your lack of self-esteem. Be confident in yourself. It doesn't matter what others think (especially your Father In Law).

3) You have to learn patience and do things with a cool head. How old are you and your wife? It sounds like you're very young and a little immature at this. But that's okay. You can learn.

4) Do the right thing for your son. Be the man that you want your son to look up to. Do you want your son to see his father be afraid of his father in law?

I think you said that you are in Singapore. Are you Chinese? Did you ever see the movie "Once Upon a Time in China"? In the movie, Jet Li is the man of honesty and is always doing the right thing even though others were making fun of him. He knew that you couldn't change people from just talking. You have to act and be the good man. And he had alot of patience. You have to be that man.