1) I really hope I can do it to give her space. I am forcing myself to do it.
2) I have always being good to GR, but she can't see it because I am always with GR alone. U may said I am using this as a strategy again. Maybe of the hope I am hoping for I still think of it as strategy but my love to my boy is real. How can she feel or see it if she wasn't around?
3) Arrange time with him is always what I want but my wife is always saying our boy is too young and I can't handle it. If I were to argue further, this make it worst. His dad can still tell me story of how his colleague son die because the father did not know how to take care of him. He always giving negative input to my spouse. Do you understand my difficulties?
4) When you don't pay attention to someone, they start paying attention to you. It this really true?
Originally Posted By: MrBond
"Why it seem like to win back my wife, I have to completely leave?"
1) Because she has told you time and time again that she want space. That means she doesn't want to see you.
2) You will never completely not be in contact with her because you have to communicate with her about your son. So if you show her how good of a father you are (without actually telling her you're a good father) she may see you in a better way. You can talk with her when you're with your son and slowly make your back in that way.
Go back and read DR again. Drill it into your head. How old are you and your W anyway?
"it difficult for me to see GR now because everything I do, her dad is thinking of me negatively. He is always giving her negative input."
Who's son is it? Yours or her father's? YOU ARE THE FATHER! Start acting like it and arrange to spend time with him. Forget about what her father will or will not say.
Let's face it, you've barely even tried. You think that everything has to be a strategy. But you're thinking so much that you end up not doing anything.
Stop thinking about trying to get your W back for now and concentrate on spending more time with your son. Your W will come around when she sees that you aren't paying her anymore attention. That's the way it works. When you don't pay attention to someone, they start paying attention to you. I don't know how much easier to put it to you.
