I thought my H was the most caring as well. My bff always compared the men she was dating to my H. But guess what? He's human and flawed just like so many of us. frown

I don't want to downplay your pain because it is very real. But you are the only one that can help yourself.

Honestly.. I was a mess. A complete mess. And there were moment when I didn't think I could continue on. But this board became a lifesaver. When I felt I didn't have anyone to talk to.. I came here.. I received love.. Support.. And sometimes a much needed kick in the pants.

The expectations are huge!!! Agree with accuray.. When you lower your expectations.. You lower the chances of being disappointed. It is so very hard to do.. But if you can find your way there, an amazing life awaits you


Me:38.. H:33.
Two beautiful kids S:6 D:3
M:8.. together for 11.
Bomb dropped:10/17/11
Separated:11/07/11