DBing while settling finances

[scaredsilly]

hi ng, i can only speak for myself but i've seen our sitch's described as rollercoaster rides so i feel pretty sure it's normal for the up and down action of our emotions.

i was in the gutter when he told me he wanted to divorce. that was in dec. '11. we then spent time together for 5 weeks. it was cold and distant. after i came back home, i went back down. i did not see him daily and my imagination went crazy. i was in panic mode.

then, back up in march until he, again, started talking about divorce. that was the beginning of april.

finally, i decided i would be able to make it without him. it took effort but i went out and GAL, read inspirational quotes every morning, got emails sent to me from religious sites and divorce support groups, etc. all this has helped me to get a positive mindset. now, he is interested in me again. i am NEVER angry with him or in a bad mood. i'm upbeat about my life and myself.

i may be down again but i don't believe it will be as bad if i am.

so, i guess what i'm trying to say is, what you're going through seems normal to me and if your course is anything like mine, you'll be back up but you will have to put some effort into it.

hope this helps.