H says ready to work on relationship, now what?

[Some Day]

Mr. Bond,

Thank you. Yes, false start for sure. I was clearly warned by many board members here (sandi and mlc come to mind, among others)to take things slow, set boundaries, and seek changes before letting him back in. However, I feel back into the gullible trap and let my emotions and love for him take over. I now see the wisdom in their advice. The second betrayal hurt me much more deeply.

We are working on improving our relationship, as what we had before is no longer acceptable to me. I want a better relationship than before the bomb drop, or I don't want it. I'm getting a lot better at speaking up rather than ignoring things that bother me. It's defintely a change. I'm a classic conflict avoider/denier. I'm getting there, slowly.

I hope my H seeks the IC he needs. I think he is starting to see the importance of it. We'll see if he takes the next step. He's so resistant to it, though. Don't know if this is a guy thing or just a product of his horrible childhood and not feeling comfortable talking about 'feelings.'