Originally Posted By: figgeroni
if politics is her passion...get interested

don't make it your passion but get interested...allow her to share her passion with you

for example

Cori's passion is shooting and firearms...not mine
but
he wanted to teach me to shoot (not my favorite idea) but I figured, why not? It allows us time to be together and he can share this passion with me
I will never be a member of the NRA but I can learn to shoot
I can take an interest enough to remember things he tells me so I can reference it later
I can take mental notes so when a birthday or important event comes up, I am ready...I ask questions and am interested in his answers

you can't let the things she says rattle you (I know...easier said than done)

you have to remember that she isn't really sure so she has to try out a bunch of things until something fits just right but if you keep changing then she will never know how you fit

you have to be sure

then whatever she says won't change how you feel, how you fit
you will be calm and steady
and you will be the guiding force she needs to blow those changes against and will be able to guide those winds away



Thank you for the post. I guess this is the roller coaster that everyone references...

I wish there were more time in a day. I need to re-read DB & DR. I need to learn/research politics... I have to do more things for myself (180s) and I have to complete the normal daily activities.

I'll have to find a Politics for Dummies type book and start learning. smile

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on/off over the years including her A
Recently-
Nov 2015 bomb
Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling
Feb bomb
March-April Reconciling
May - bomb
Mid-May I tell her I'm done