The switch would be better for the girls than so much back and forth too. I was on the Chamber of Commerce for years and you meet lots of good people at their networking events. Sounds pretty reasonable.
Stop focussing on other people's weight and focus only on your own. Just because someone is overweight does not mean they would make a good life partner. And how do you know they're not working on it. To suggest, even in jest, that you might want to stop working out and scarf down cheeseburgers is ridiculous. You stay in shape for YOU and no one else. Remember - you should focus on someone's personality more than their physical appearance.
