Do I just give in?

[Hurt84]

So she's supposed to be signing a lease for this apartment on Monday. The lease is for a year (they don't have many short-term or month-to-months around here) so if she figures out for herself that she wants to try and come home (assuming I'm willing to let her) then she'd have to break the lease and lose the security deposit. I don't know if there are (or could be) any other penalties - I've never been in a rental situation before.

Her mom lives 5 minutes away from us right now. She has a huge house with an apartment to itself. She has refused to consider moving there because she tells me that she doesn't want to inconvenience her mother by her staying there, taking a guest room away from someone that could use it (their family comes into town a lot). I think it's really that she doesn't want to have to answer questions or talk about what's going on. Also, if OM is still in the picture, then she has to figure out a way to fit that in to her story. It was one thing to lie to me about everything through all this, it'd be something else especially if she's staying in her mom's house.

Given that she's been talking as if she could eventually see herself coming home and that she told her sister she doesn't want to get a divorce, I'm toying with the idea of approaching her again about moving in with her mother at least until she is able to see for herself if this is going to be a temporary thing or something that is going to be a little more permanent. She'd be able to save some money and she'd still be able to accomplish one of the things she wants, getting some space from me. I was thinking of talking to her about it but I also thought of just doing it in an email.

I'm not sure if either is a good idea though because it obviously could be backsliding a little bit. I mean in the grand scheme of things, if her losing the security deposit is the cost of her coming home and us working on reconciling, then I'm willing to pay it. It's just I'd rather see her not commit to something so costly or "long term".