ffi (and others), this is a really good example of the dynamic that goes on in our sitches...
From day one, I'd often have moments of wondering if I was the LBS... or if I was actually the WAS...
I can't remember who it was that mentioned recently, that the words LBS and WAS are really just labels to give a perspective of the person here (working through the sitch) and the other spouse (who appears not to be working through the sitch)...
At one point a week or so ago, ncl made a comment to one of our members how the spouse was using classic "LBS script"... this almost appears verbatim how many of us feel about our (alien) WAS / MLCer...
If that's the case ffi... then why don't we find our spouses on these boards that the LBS seeks to get through this...?
Own what ever you feel is yours to own from what your H laid out, ffi... no more... and no less...
And from this point... work on that... and move forward...
