Went to my sons first soccer game that my W is the coach of and things went well. I coached as well by helping on the little kids figure which way they were suppose to be kicking the ball.
My parents came to the guy because they come to all there grandkid's games and my W was very surprise to see them since they have not seen each other for 7-8 months. My W said to me in a little panick I didn't know your parents were coming, am I suppose to say something to them. I said they decided on there own to come and didn't respond to the other question.
My S ended up running over to my parents to hug them and play with them while he was substitute waiting to play. We got to half time and my W go oh sh*t I forgot the treats for the end of the game at my house can you do me a favor and run to the grocery store to get something. I agreed to do so and then my parents saw me walking towards the car and asked me where I was going. I explained the situation and they offered to go. I was ok with them going because I didn't want to miss any of my son's game. My W starting saying they don't need to go but I said it was ok.
The game continued to its end and we passed out the treats the my parents got. My W thanked my parents and thanked me as well. All in all I guess it was a positive experience.
My W tried to force me to give up a day because I'm picking my S up on Friday night because she is running a race early Saturday morning. I first agreed to switch the day because she was so persistent but I then was able to explain that I don't think I should have to give her a day because she decided to run a race even if it is before her vacation. My W is already getting my S for a week before trip so giving her one more day was not acceptable to me.
I feel it is ironic that I'm watching my S while she runs but she claims in the past I never supported her running but she knows the race is so early again that our S needs to be watch. I know supporting her in running takes more than just watching our S but I'm still watching him for her and in fact I'm picking him up on Monday which is a day I'm giving her before her trip because she has a final in school. Am I just being silly or what? I do it for my S because I want to watch him rather than the options my W will use.
No progress or talk on the D for quite sometime it feels like. I don't know what to think of my situation at this point but I'm just continuing to detach and GAL as much as I can. Things here and there get me upset but doing better day by day. My S misses his mommy more and more and asks more and more as he nears 3 years old but I'm getting through it. I have read many other posts and taken solace in other people's stitches. I have grown a lot in this process and learned a lot about myself. Not sure where this journey is going but I know the point of the journey is to improve me.
I'm trying to be compassionate but not a doormat at the same time. Tough line to walk.
Me:29 W:28 S:2 M: 5 years Bomb: 7-26-11 Separated: 8-20-11 EA w/ multiple OMs W filed 1/2012