It is entirely possible that there is another man in the picture but I honestly don't see why she wouldn't just tell me if that was the case. She has already made it clear that she wants out of the marriage, why hide the fact that she has feelings for someone else? At least that I could understand.
Our talk went about as well as can be expected I suppose. We did mutually decide that the best course of action at this point is to stay separated until the end of the month and then she will move into the house with me. We will work on getting our monthly payments and debts reduced by simplifying and selling some things to help free up additional money. When we are both comfortable that the split won't cause any undo financial hardship she will look for her own place. She was very adamant that when she is living here we are separated and will just be roommates until we can make more permanent arrangements. She made it clear that she didn't want me questioning where she was or who she was with. I agreed, in fact, in the last two weeks it's been sort of liberating to not be constantly worrying about where she is or what she is doing. I guess the detaching is working already?
I'm apprehensive about her moving in here in some ways. We do get along great and despite everything that has transpired the past few weeks I think we will always be good friends. We were friends before we started our relationship and I'm hoping we will remain friends if the marriage is truly over. My real hope is that being in our house that we made so many plans for will give her pause to reconsider and I just hope I'm able to maintain a good attitude when she is here. Getting depressed and moping around will only make her regret moving in.
I'm doing my best to GAL, to be positive and cheerful whenever we speak and to work on myself. I got my porcelain veneers put on today and now I look like a whole new person. I really think it is going to improve my overall outlook on things. I know that I am a great guy and if my wife no longer recognizes that then I'm sure somewhere out there is a woman who will. It's very strange to be considering the possibility of meeting someone else so soon, but I'm young and my life will go one with or without her by my side.
