My waw left mid march, I did every thing opposite of the 180 rule. She filed we now have attorneys. She felt neglected, that I didn't love her, or find her attractive. We have been together 22 years. She asked me to go to counseling a few years ago I didn't want to. I have been in counseling for 6 weeks on my own. A few things that are kinda strange. We married in 90 and divorced 2 years later. Stayed together after a brief split. Had 2 kids remarried the 17 years ago.
Whats weird is that she wants counseling after divorce, she wears her ring, wants our bed. Has recently been around the house not much but some. I gave her a kiss on cheek and touched hand and she didn't seem to like the closeness of the kiss once was good but the hand touching she seems to like,
I made her mad last Friday and when I saw her she wasn't wearing ring. Later I asked and she said you made me mad. I was confused cause she is divorcing me so I was puzzled by the fact she took it off for that.
One of the main rules I break is calling her. I have been trying not to. Yesterday my daughter stayed at waw apartment, I texted and said could I come get her and take her to school. She said yes, That was the first time I was allowed over there. I didnt go in but I was allowed to get her. Later I called to thank her for the gesture. I said it would be nice if by July we all could go to a pool and sit in lounge chairs.(that is something we have always done vacations etc..) Her response was that would be fantastic. I was very surprised by that. Later in conversation I said maybe in a few weeks we could split a dream dinners packe. (dream dinners is a place where you prepare several meals on stations and bag each meal. usually about 20) I said I would go and make it and her response was I'll go. I was again shocked. She has had limited interaction with me. I decided top buy the DB,DR books today and really focus on the 180 Today was the 1st time I did not call or text. about 11 am got a call and she asked how my night with our daughter was. I explained I made a nice meal she did some homework bla blah. But the deal is she asked. She has been so adamenet about her space and freedom and not wanting to share. I was again like hmm ok. Later at like 130 she texted and asked about the cat. She has been gone 6 weeks and that was the first time she spoke about cat.
Couple hours later she called and said she had her 1st mediation appointment and thought our divorce will be easier without spending to much, I wish she would stop everything and let us be a family but. weird. She'll do counseling after divorce. Its like she wants to shed the old divorce and ? She has been adament about us not being a couple. I know she is not seeing anyone. anyway folks thats my story..
