I just wish I knew how to let her go. I really do want to be happy and I know I have to eventually get there in order to be the best dad I can be for my kids, but I just don't know how to let go of something that means so much to me.
Underdog posted this on another thread earlier today. I think it is worth repeating. I've modified it slightly to fit your particular sitch.
Originally Posted By: Underdog
"So, the moderators here used to tell us that what we focus on expands. That was undoubtedly the best observation I ever received here. As long as you focus on the problem, it just gets bigger billing in your life. If you focus on you and YOUR life, that will also take center stage.
Drop the rope, let himher wallow around in hisher own pond, and you work on making your pond the most attractive, fun place ever. No matter what heshe decides to do, you will gain from replacing hisher name on the marquee with your own. Don't you totally deserve that?"
Things will get better for you with the passage of time. Take a deep breath and then another.
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It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
