I'm going to go against the grain and say that there was nothing wrong with the present. With your W drinking there is something going on and it ain't the marriage. Your text to her was perfect. You didn't intrude, you left the door open if she wanted to talk, and most importantly, you gave her the choice.

Sure you were disappointed, but the fact that you were able to do that shows how much you've grown.

Withholding the R talks is good. Don't push them.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER