Thanks. In addition to the steps I've taken, I'm waiting for the DB and DR books to come in. I'm looking forward to getting into those and seeing what I can take away from them. I'm also looking at getting into IC - I've been dragging my feet with that.
I'd like to say that seeing her straddling the fence seems like a positive to me. Not that what she's doing (or has done) are easy choices to make, but I feel like it shows how conflicted she is about what she is doing. It says to me that she isn't completely done with us, despite what she may have said or done previously.
At the same time, since these are such life changing choices she's making, her mixed signals could also point in the other direction. She knows that she'd be walking away from life as she knows it so that uncertainty could be what's holding her back.
Only time will tell which one it is and if I'm there when she figures it out.
M: 29 W: 29 T: 12 years M: 4 years Discovered OM: 02/10/12 ILYBNILWY: 03/01/12 W Moves Out: 05/04/12 Reconciliation Starts: 09/06/12 In-house Separation (Again): 03/09/13
