Sex has been a very contentious issue in our M. I always wanted it. She didn't. I explained to her recently that sex doesn't end after the wedding. Low to little sex is a symptom of other problems in the M. She completely agreed. Hindsight is always 20/20, but there were (a lot of) times when I was needy for sex. Showed neediness, desperation, etc. Very weak and pathetic. I kick myself now. This neediness, etc, surely manifested prior to the lack of sex, thus causing the loss in desire from my W. She didn't lose her sex drive; she lost her attraction to me.
6+ weeks after my W moved out, I read the 35 or so points that are the cornerstones of successful DBs. I've been somewhat successful; I've failed in following others.
We had dinner on Saturday. It was a very nice night, sort of a date in a way. Dinner then a show. Stayed with her on Saturday night. We had a serious conversation on Sunday morning. It's clear to me there's a long, long way to go and the work that needs to be done is on my end. And I need to back way off and cut the communication. She still texts and I still reply, but I just need to keep focusing on myself. I don't know where this will end up, but I am just trying like hell to follow a somewhat coherent plan for working on myself (while successfully DB'ing). Thanks...
