Line up ten of the wisest posters you know on this forum, of all stripes -- male, female, "hard", "soft," former WAW former BH, etc. Imagine you polled them about whether or not you should give your wife such a gift.
What do you suppose the "vote" would have been?
I'm not saying there's not a time for you to carefully weigh everyone's advise, and then do what YOU feel you need to do, based on your own morals, ethics and knowledge of the situation. That's certainly appropriate. But I don't think that's what this was, do you?
