thanks bug for the advice. I am soo terrible at hiding what i feel! I also hate confrontation. That was a big problem in our m. I think I will really like my lawyer tommorrow! Backup. I'm not trying to screw him over, just some fairness. He's walking away with alot more $ than me. I told h. recently, I'm listening to my l., just like you are listening to yours. We'll see what happens.yuck
Well, it wasn't as bad as I feared. Thanks everyone for the support. Things are getting close, not all the way. Hopefully in the next few days the will be settled. H. has agreed to be here for move and to help me do the tv hookup stuff. Then after that I don't know when I will ever see him. Also looks like I will have to go back to work. Retirement was nice for 6 years, crap.
Well, he stewed all nite and now is reneging on what he agreed to yesterday. He's taking his anger with the lawyers and aiming at me. He says it's snowballing and he's feeling taken advantage of and that from the beginning he wanted to make sure it would go ok with me. So much for amicable. Moving Monday! Fun.
Then don't have him come over. If you need the help get a handyman to come over and do it. He's going to start alot of drama which you don't need. You're tending to a child now.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Hope, this is script. Let him have his snit. It is his to stew in. Don't engage the drama will only escalate. Disengage, go do something for you to help you remain calm. Smile even if you have to force it.
Have you googled the drama triangle? It is a model used to explain how some people interact in relationships. There are a variety of references on the web.
Each of us dance around the roles on the triangle and there is nothing wrong with that. It is when we get stuck that is less than good.
Where are you most of the time on the triangle?
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
