Endeavor, good earlier post. And I think what you said about the remorse is key. I was trying to recall that earlier.
When I found out my ex-bf was having an EA and also regularly looking at porn (and we were sexually estranged, though I was not happy about it), he was anything but remorseful. He was pretty damn proud - like he'd found a way to hurt me. No idea why, but I read at the time that this was key - in an EA/PA for the offended to be able to forgive. Of course, you can forgive without it, but May's sitch is so murky - he's denying stuff, they're not talking about it, etc.
I think more what I meant earlier was the likelihood of her forgetting about it and letting it go seemed slim since there were so many questions left unanswered, and that it seemed at the very least, she wanted answers, but b/c she didn't I didn't see that as her letting go - does that make sense?
You had both answers *and* remorse, and now an understanding H. Not that that makes it any easier, but I trust that would make it much more possible for May.
