Thank you! This is very deep insight and thank you for reminding me of the emotional unavailability.
I just now realized that perhaps what I've been so heart broken over is the "potential" that I thought we had to make a wonderful marriage and life together.
But that just is impossible when someone is emotionally unavailable and passive aggressive. You simply just can not penetrate that.
For people that suffer from emotional unavailability, and passive aggressiveness, the only thing I could see that would help these people would be A) admit they need help. B)Get help, and Accept it. This is true psychotherapy that needs to be done. How can solution therapy do any good if these people will just sabatoge anything positive that starts up anyway?
Yes, I too felt that my Xh was trying to push me away. He did the push pull thing with me over and over. But I wouldn't budge, I just kept being myself and showing him love whenever I felt it was safe. He left me and blamed me too.
