Light at the end of the tunnel......

[NYCPeter]

Hi Rick - and everyone else.

I check the forum about once a week and am trying to stay upto date on everyone's situation.

The reason I haven't been posting is that there has been no real change in our circumstances. Thanks to the good folks on this forum I've taken charge of my life and am leaving my W to take her chosen path.

I know she is still meets with OM occasionally - does it bother me, yes it bothers me - but I don't talk to my W about what she does or where she goes, that's her choice. She told me a while back that she stopped seeing him, either the pull is too strong or he's got a lot more than I have. She even admitted to a mutual friend she "had a boyfriend that she sees from time to time" - so she's no longer trying to cover it up.

As for me - I'm good, I've taken a weekend trip with some buddies and spend my spare time keeping busy and focusing on the girls. I've taken some cooking classes and have started playing golf now the weather has warmed up.

My W still hasn't filed for D - she wants everything settled before she files. There is a major sticking point re: alimony and duration, unfortunately we are so far apart that we may need to let a judge decide. Re: custody of the girls, we're pretty close to 50/50 - I get 3 weekends out of 4 and some midweeks...

House is on the market and we'll need to lower the price, we both still live there as neither of us can afford to pay for two places. It suits me as I get to see the girls every day as opposed to 50% of the time. I've been checking out rentals and I know I can make this work, I'll get serious about renting when we get an offer on the house.

Overall - I'm ready to move on with the next phase of my life. It's been hard not to feel bitter at times but I've not shown anything outwardly, I need to take my path and she needs to take hers...

For all you newbies out there new to this - listen to the wise folks on this forum, I made every mistake under the sun and then some - would it have made any difference, I'm not sure with OM in picture. I do know I didn't help my cause...

Peace everyone..