I guess I can be here now

[ESN]

Right. This is what I've been saying all along.

I'm suspecting she can't get past it. So why are we all telling her she should "let go"?

Clearly she's not letting go. But we'll keep trying to talk her out of it ...

For the sake of the marriage...

Which I don't get.

Especially in light of the fact that she seems to want a reason to leave him.

That's the thing: my gut tells me he slept with her.

And May, if the truth is that you cannot get past that, then move on in your life.

I won't defend you not getting past it, or attack it, but I will call you on it.

You don't know if he had a PA and until recently you thought he had not. Things were looking up. You found OLD stuff that made it sound like a hotter EA (b/c i don't recall the wording I am assuming no actual evidence of intercourse)

and let's face it...

Him having a PA sounds like a better reason for YOU to leave him, than saying 'he wrecked my pregnancy"...