Kimmerz, if he has a system that works for him (avoid reality, get bit, spiral down, rinse, repeat) don't you think that's his coping skill? So far...
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he did admit to rejecting my acts of love because he was terribly afraid of rejection by me.
Yep. Seems logical to me. He did to you what he was afraid of most. Like a child would do.
He has to take this trip. He's well on the road. He left. He has to choose to come back if that's what he figures out. He has to choose to figure out first....Some never do, Kimmerz. Some do and never tell you. Even if they want to come back. Too terrified. And since you didn't do this to him, you can't change it or help him. He has to do it. All of it at this point.
As for loving and receiving love. You do what you were taught. What you learned. What you receive feedback is what your partner wants. Until your partner walks the road where there's a signpost up ahead....
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
