It is me again. Screwed up again.

[25yearsmlc]

I read about detaching today. It was written about detaching from an alcoholic but it applys to me. Do you really just make no contact at all with them?


YES REALLY...Besides She is with OM now (HE texted you saying "she will" move on)

and you just told her to move on like you are. Do you mean anything you say? You are teaching her not to believe you.


I am wanting to send her an email and tell her how I feel. Probably a bad idea?

Very bad...
useless and counterproductive. You have told her how you feel, my guess is, 50 times? 100? 500?? Stop saying WORDS b/c they are meaningless.

Actions speak much louder and you need to appear strong, until you actually are.

If your son were involved with a woman like her, what would You tell Him?



I don't know if she knows or maybe that is just in my head.


1) yes she knows, but you won't get her the drugs and THEREFORE

2) she does not care how you feel unless it means she will get her fix from you.


Do I tell her that I still have feelings for her and that I would consider reconceliation or just let it go until she comes to me? This is hard.

No you don't tell her that. IF she ever gets healthy, which is NOT likely for at least another year

she'll reach out to you.

You say "this is hard." Yes, so is getting off drugs.

BUT This is not complicated. I don't know why you are confused.

Oh wait, I do know. It's not that you are confused, it's that you are addicted to her.

I went thru a 12 step program 15 years ago. They can work.

You are as addicted to her as she is to the pills. And it's just as dangerous in your life. Don't kid yourself into thinking your addiction has had no ill effects on those around you.

I can only imagine how much your addiction has affected your r with your son b/c he knows he's not as important to you as your drug of choice, which doesn't even make you happy.

You choose the suffering of your addiction to her, over quality time with your son.

Ever Wonder how he feels about that?

You KNOW she's bad for you but you still want to be around her or to pursue her. 'WHY???

evidently your fear of the unknown w/o her, even if it could mean a healthy relationship with a healthy normal loving woman who isn't addicted....and the restoration of your career and financial security...

is scarier for you than the hell you know, with her.

That's really not healthy.

Go get well, please. You'd be doing your son a favor, in case you don't think your life is worth fixing. Think of him.