I don't love you anymore but we can be friends 3

[labug]

told her that since she is the only one that was unhappy then she should go she then went ballistic calling me selfish.

SIW, I don't draw a lot of hard lines around here but this is one. If she's the unhappy one, she should leave.

And if she tantrums, you can walk away after saying "When you can talk to me respectfully, I will talk to you."

You will be OK.

BINGO. ^^^


Starsky

Not quite a Bingo, in my haste earlier I left out a very important part. The feeling part: "W when you raise your voice and speak angrily I feel disrespected (or whatever the feeling is for you, SIW) if you continue..."

We all need to understand that our words have impact and that there are consequences to hurtful words and actions. This clearly states your boundary.

Without that it's more like the old parental reasoning, "Because I said so."

And I don't think you want to have parent-child R with her.