Do I just give in?

[adinva]

I saw that question on your thread too. I hope Accuray replies but I thought I'd chime in. It's a really common concern that doing what DB says and backing off will show the WAS that they're doing the right thing and you're fine with it.

Instead, DB says, the WAS already things they're doing the right thing and your bugging them with emails and pursuing will push them farther out the door.

What has to happen is they have to miss you. It has to occur to them in their head that they want to come back, and that won't happen if you try to make it happen.

What have you told W so far that makes her think you do or don't care that you're headed for D? If you're like most of us LBSs, she KNOWS you don't want a D.

Your goal, according to DB, is to allow her to think you don't care and that you're moving on, so she has some space and time to miss you and rethink what she's doing. The best way you can achieve that is to follow the 37 rules and not reach out to her.

If she continues on her path, she was going to whether you pursued or not. Your job is to leave her alone, get a life, be interesting and mysterious and attractive. Have a great time on your week away, keep yourself busy and not wallowing, and be someone who she'd be interested in coming back to.