Originally Posted By: paige40
I didn't feel loved or appreciated and I gained weight so I felt unattractive. I cant really do a 180 on that can I?


I had these feelings alot in my marriage. My wife did ALOT of assisting with it, but I realized that I contributed to it as well.

Take ownership for part your part of it. It's the only part you can change.

I know that's hard when the person who you want to love and appreciate you doesn't.... but push those feelings aside.

Focus on the people who do appreciate you and love you. Focus on their reasons and let that radiate from you.

Sure - working out, eating healthy, and having a "nice" body definitely helps with "feeling attractive" and having "confidence"....

... but there are PLENTY of skinny people who still feel ugly.

It has to come with within. It has to be a mindset. It has to be something that YOU believe in.

None of ^^^^^ has ANYTHING to do with your H.

M(f): 43
D'ed: 8/12

Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.

Love at all costs because you are loved well.