WHG: Looking for the shrinking cake

[~ kd ~]

What I struggle with is "do what works". Nothing seems to really work.

Define what "what works" means to you...

For some... "what works" might be that they are growing, regardless of what is happening to the M...

For others... "what works" might be that their spouse is showing signs of moving towards them...

And even for some... "what works" is that they emotionally detach from their spouse, file D, and get on with their lives...

What were your goals?

What have you done to achieve those goals?

How can you determine that nothing seems to be working, in relation to achieving your goals?