That sounds good Hurt84, give yourself a pat on the back. I hope you realize that if you handled this differently you could be making things much worse. Your DB efforts seem to be working.

It's unclear to me what you want -- do you want strict separation, or do you want her back home? If you want her back home, I'm not sure why you are pushing to cut more ties. Let her come home to do her laundry, the contact will be good when you want it, and you can stay away when you don't.

Are you trying to push her completely out to give her a hard dose of reality? What are you trying to do?

Also, please post more about what you told her that she was surprised by -- what did you say, and what did she say?

Keep giving space, the more space you give, the safer you make it for her to step back towards you.

Good job keeping it high level with SIL too

Accuray


Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015