Wife wants out

[totallydevoted]

Thanks working...even though we may sign papers I still just have that feeling we will end up together somehow. It could just be hope and I'm being irrational but my gut just feels it. she seems so cold and non-chalant when she talks about us, I guess that's to be expected since she's trying to distance herself from us and to be strong for the girls. Like you say, part of the script.

We are just still really good together...she just cannot trust me in the trying times...when she really needs me emotionally. This is what I am really working on...connecting with people on a more basic emotional level...everything else doesn't matter. In fact, one of my 180's is to really be a kind, gentle, listening friend to her when we are together. I think it confuses her a bit, but also makes her feel good; and part of me thinks that she's panicking a little with the mediator rush. In her mind she just knows that if she has any doubts of a D then she'll leave it open for us to get back together (because I know she still loves me...and our passion together is very genuine) than she will just end up hurt again; and she can't go through that. It's going to take some serious time for me to prove to her that I truly want and will nurture that emotional connection with her...and we may have to D to do it. a horrible feeling but the D just may save our R in the long run...God, I can only hope. And I can only hope that she doesn't find someone else in the meantime...because like you, I don't want anyone else. I only want her...but I guess if she does enter into another committed R than the writing would be on the wall then. however...until she has another ring on her finger...you're right...there is no final nail...and I will never give up hope.